I have several people in my life who are chronic complainers. Its getting so bad that I have a hard time being around them. Isn't that awful? A preacher's wife, not wanting to be around people? A child of God avoiding her Christian siblings? I try different approaches. I try sympathizing. That seems to make it worse, and they start seeking me out to cry on my shoulder. I try to counter their complaints with Scripture, but they only whine more and act like I have no sympathy for them.
Here's what I believe. We've all got problems. We all have big problems. Yours are just as big, bad, sad etc. as mine. They are a part of life that God allows for our good. Complaining shows just how little I trust my Heavenly Father to look after me. As I complain, I am also usually trying to make my suffering just a little worse than yours. And of course, God must be deaf and blind. Can't He see my troubles? doesn't He care?
Some people, IMHO, feel invisible if they are not pitied by one and all for their suffering.
"Count your blessings" may seem like a cliché, but its absolute truth, given by God.
Thankfulness gives health, even thankfulness for less-than-perfect circumstances.
Complaining leads to depression and insomnia and quite a few other unpleasant symptoms, which leads to more complaining! And as dear Flylady says, nobody likes a martyr!
Thank you Lord, for everthing! For loving me even though I am less than perfect. Thank you for my house and van. Thank you for the Preacher and our kids. Thank you for my computer and my broadband connection. Thank you for the nice people who brought me some Dr. Pepper and See's candy! Thank you for my blogsisters.
See how much fun thankfulness is?