Have you ever noticed that the thing you like most about someone is also the same thing that you dislike?
Someone who you admire for getting things done suddenly is seen as a bossy control freak. Nice steady husband all of a sudden is dull and boring. A friend we love because she is caring turns into a friend who is nosy. Strong, command man husband is an overbearing, domineering jerk.
What changed? Two things, I believe. First, our perception can change from time to time.
Second, behaviour changes. Your greatest strengths become your greatest weaknesses. Sometimes I am a leader, and people follow me. When I get into the flesh, I become a bossy bullfrog. Being of strong convictions (good), I can become stubborn.(bad) I can be easy-going (good) but that can turn to lazy (bad) If I am not careful, even those things that I do well, satan can turn. I must be vigilant.
Just a thought
Odds and ends and breaking the silence
2 years ago
3 comments:
me too =)
My husband and I TOTALLY had to work our "perception" of each other as my decisiveness became bulldozerness, his carfulness became perfectionest, my bluntness became insensitivity and his consideration became wishy-washy. His servant heart became workaholic . . .
you see, but what is SO neat is that God brought two extreems together to get us to come more towards the middle and find balance. It's been a bumpy ride, but we're getting there.
Very good thoughts there! I guess I had never really thought about it that way, but it is so true!
And isn't that one of the main reasons of divorce? A couple gets married, thinks everything is perfect, but a few years (months, days?) down the road, those same "perfections" start to get a little annoying. So they give up and find someone else.
And often the same things we admire in other people are the areas that we are lacking.
Just a few more thoughts. :)
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