Have you ever noticed that the thing you like most about someone is also the same thing that you dislike?
Someone who you admire for getting things done suddenly is seen as a bossy control freak. Nice steady husband all of a sudden is dull and boring. A friend we love because she is caring turns into a friend who is nosy. Strong, command man husband is an overbearing, domineering jerk.
What changed? Two things, I believe. First, our perception can change from time to time.
Second, behaviour changes. Your greatest strengths become your greatest weaknesses. Sometimes I am a leader, and people follow me. When I get into the flesh, I become a bossy bullfrog. Being of strong convictions (good), I can become stubborn.(bad) I can be easy-going (good) but that can turn to lazy (bad) If I am not careful, even those things that I do well, satan can turn. I must be vigilant.
Just a thought