So many of you BlogGals seem blessed with absolutely perfect husbands. I am so glad for you! But maybe there are a few of you out there who can benefit from my mistakes and shortcomings in the marriage department. There was no way for me to have a perfect husband, because I was not a perfect wife. I’m still not perfect, in fact far from it, but we’ve come a long way. Now, my husband has always had the most admirable qualities I could ever hope for. He is trustworthy and hardworking. He is in the Lord’s service. Once I gave up my desire to change him, the Lord is maturing him into a wonderful husband. So for the next month leading up to our 13th anniversary, I will share what I have learned.
Before you marry someone, ask yourself this question. If he never changes, can I live with that?
I was definitely a member of the “home improvement committee” and by “home” I meant “him” Since I had been a Christian for almost two decades, and he had only been saved for two years, more or less, I figured that he could learn a lot from me. He could have too, but that was not God’s plan. Help meet does not mean teacher. Holy Spirit is Teacher, and I was trying to take over for Him!
Do you know why I did this? I think it was pride. I didn’t want others to think I had married “beneath” myself, spiritually. I considered myself more spiritual than he, although he was on the fast track. It was not until I read Created to be his Help meet that I realized that my ideas for his spirituality may not have been God’s.
What I know for certain is that my methods to make him more “spiritual” were unfruitful because they were meant to impress others and not God.
Thank you God, because you worked in me.
8 months ago